Five Ways
To Handle Anger Constructively
How Can I do It?
As an adult, I can choose to express my anger appropriately.
I can say I don’t like what is being done.
I can write an angry letter.
I can forgive him or her for being imperfect.
I can consider the source and let go or give up anger.
Five ways to handle anger:
1) Recognize that you are angry. Mentally healthy people are not without anger. They are people who express their anger constructively. Emotionally disturbed people are not people with too much anger but they express it in a destructive way. (They collect stamps)
2) Purify motives. Ask yourself your main purpose of communication of anger. If we are interested only in getting back rather than remaining an obstacle to mutual need and fulfillment there can be only negative results.
3) Discuss the Real issue.
4) Express your anger constructively. Constructive is, “I care for too much about our relationship not to share with you how and what I’m felling. We’re both good people, lets resolve this in a positive way. Handled this way, one stamp at a time, anger is no longer something frightening, but a tool for growth.
Have a Showdown before sundown with your anger!!!
Homework:
Quietly observe yourself and how many anger stamps you
collect this week.
Consider situations or relationships where anger is getting in the way of a friendship.
Experiment with sharing anger and indicate results.
Big Book Reference: Anger Pages: 5, 39, 56, 58, 98, 113, 153, 179, 184, 268, 285, 309, 320.
Getting angry can sometimes be like leaping into a wonderfully responsive sports car, gunning the motor, taking off at high speed and then discovering the brakes are out of order.
--Maggie Scarf
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